It tells us the neo-nazis and their ilk clamor for a woman to keep in her place: barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen. Feminism – the “radical” notion that women are people too — has no place in their world. If we’re not making babies, by God instead of daring to think our own thoughts, we ought to be cooking up a storm for our menfolk and their sturm-und-drang gang.
Was she a lesbian? Who cares! Was she childless by choice – or by heartache and loss of pregnancies? Not only doesn’t it matter, it’s none of our business. What matters is that she was someone’s daughter, and for most of us – those who aren’t saddled with males who reduce us to our reproductive choices and potential or actual bodily functions – that counts for something bigger. She had a mom and friends and grandparents, and she tried to peaceably do what was right.
She was a paralegal. Perhaps the anti-female crowd decided she, too, shouldn’t be doing any work. If a woman’s a cop, for example, she’s taking a job away from a man. As a Chicago Police Department recruit in the early 80’s I was told this more than once, though not by anyone I could now pin down, mostly it was whispered behind my back. Women mustn’t aspire to be firefighters or engineers or truck drivers either – those too are occupations that “should” be reserved for men.
Meanwhile, who are the females standing behind these angry white guys? Maybe the mothers can’t change their sons now, but are they doing anything more than wringing their hands? What if anything do they have to say about and to their offspring? Like the people who ignore predator priests or teachers, silence becomes complicity.
One father recognized his son in the “rally” videos and turned him in. There’s a good dad, but more than that, this father is a credit to his own upbringing and to society. We know that sometimes, even though we do raise children right, they still do turn out wrong. Choosing to exile your flesh and blood is tough, but at its heart is realizing that really, your kid’s against family values and what the Church says it is and could be, and ultimately we have to stick up for the community that sustains us, even and especially when our flesh and blood will not.
A couple weeks after I re-friended a woman I hadn’t spoken with for years (we had lunch and shared a few laughs, reminisced and caught up on each other’s lives) she called me in a panic because she was being beaten by her husband. “Run!” I told her. “Go to a friend’s, a neighbor’s, whoever is closest, call the police!” Anyone who’s married to or dating someone who’d lift a hand to hurt her or a torch to Hitler and his “modern”-day ilk needs to get a grip and get away from him.
The anti-single-women blog writer received death threats, which, he claimed, amused him. I remind any woman in a so-called relationship with someone like this that you are unequally yoked; these males are undeserving of any woman’s company. I implore you to remember that before you put on this heavy, tacit, supporter-of-domestic-terrorists (and abusers of women) mantle, you were born female, and – whether it’s an acquaintance, relative, law enforcement, or your best friend – there’s help out there. Call on us.